Fascination with butts is as long as humanity itself. It seems that everyone at least considered it at some point. According to research, 30% of women had anal at least once. For some, it is a pleasure and experience like no other, while for others, it is still a taboo and something they wouldn’t try.
But what is so exciting about anal? What does it feel like? Here, we will go through everything you need to know about it, how to prepare for it, and what you should consider when it comes to this type of sex.
Why Do People Engage in Anal Sex?
There are so many reasons why someone might engage in anal. For some, they are looking to achieve an orgasm that’s more intense and more likely to occur. For others, the very idea of it being taboo or even forbidden will make it more exciting and thrilling. Also, anal sex can stimulate the prostate easily, allowing the receiver to experience an intense anal orgasm. Similarly, anal penetration can stimulate and put pressure on the inner wall of the vagina, causing a vaginal orgasm.
Besides stimulation of various spots (indirectly stimulating the G-, A-, and P-spot, the last of them being the prostate), some enjoy the feeling that comes with the initial penetration and taboo feeling that is different from the vanilla sex.
While nearly fifty percent of women in the U.S. have had experience with anal, for others that is still a hard no. Some believe that the very act of anal play requires more trust between the partners, making it almost like the next stage in the relationship.
Whatever the reason may be, some people simply love anal. That applies both to those giving and those receiving. It can also be a great way to experiment with a variety of toys and double penetration. Needless to say, anal sex eliminates the possibility of pregnancy.
The Feeling of Anal Sex for Both the Giver and Receiver
For someone who never had experience with anal and only enjoys regular sex, explaining the feeling might be difficult. For the receiver of anal sex, the main question is whether they have a prostate. If you do, the feeling of anal can be rather intense and allow you to experience an orgasm like never before. The reason for this is that penetration will stimulate the prostate, allowing you to ejaculate more and achieve (what some described as) a full-body orgasm.
There is also the feeling of initial penetration that is the same for both males and females, and it can be both pleasurable and satisfying.
On the other hand, the person giving might enjoy the tightness of the anal sphincter similarly to wearing a cock ring. Unlike vaginal sex, there won’t be a feeling of tightness on the entire length of the penis. Furthermore, it’s neither soft nor wet since the anus is not self-lubricating.
For some, of course, it might feel similar to vaginal sex, and it’s not a big deal. But for most, the main flavor is dominance and complete surrender. The very act of giving anal can make someone feel special and powerful, which can be arousing as well.
Safety Precaution Before, During, and After Anal Sex
There are several things you need to know if you are looking to have enjoyable anal sex. Before the sex starts, you should think of your hygiene. It is highly recommended to take a shower before sex, and empty your bowels at least an hour before sex (if possible). However, if the shower is not an option for you, simple neutral baby wipes can do the trick.
Some people use an enema to ensure that everything is spotless before the fun starts. You should also consider preparing yourself both mentally and physically. If the person is tense, the muscles will be tense as well, which can lead to a painful experience.
For physical preparation, butt plugs are always a good idea. They will allow your anus to prepare for penetration and allow you to have only good experience with anal. Butt plugs come in all shapes and sizes, and you can find one that’s perfect for your butt.
That will allow you to feel good and enjoy all the fun anal has to offer. After sex, another shower is a great idea. Since anal sex can cause microscopic tears in the rectum, bacteria can enter it and lead to an infection. Properly cleaning yourself will lower the chances of something like this happening.
Needless to say, the person giving anal should also take care of their hygiene. For people with foreskin, bacteria can hide in it, and thoroughly cleaning everything with water is something they should always do.
Finally, to ensure that everything is smooth and pleasurable, the couple should use a lot of lube. There are special lubricants for anal sex that are thicker and will last longer.
When Should You Stop Doing It and See a Doctor?
You should see a doctor if any irregularity happens. Whether you are having a painful experience, a rash, ich, or infection. The first thing on your mind should be yours and your partner’s health. While anal sex should be painless, sometimes complications may occur.
For example, there may be blood during your first anal experience. However, it should stop in the next couple of sessions. If the bleeding doesn’t stop or if it becomes more intense, that is more than a clean sign to visit a doctor.
Using protection can lower the risk of getting an STI. If you are having unprotected sex, regular visits to your doctor are the best possible idea.
How the Use of Anal Training Kit May Help
Anal training kits are designed to help people enjoy anal sex. Their goal is to help beginners become more accustomed to this type of sensation. Similarly to the way butt plugs can help a person relax and stretch their anus, training kits will do the same. They also allow you to go slow, increasing in size over time. Furthermore, the kits usually have a lubricant that is designed for this very purpose.
The first rule of anal sex is to start slow. It could be helpful if you tried playing solo before you start with your partner. That way, you will get to know your body better, see what you like, and have a brief idea of what’s coming.
Anal vs. Vaginal Sex
Some people spend their lives never having anal sex, and for some, it is a necessary part of the relationship. There are both men and women who prefer anal to vaginal, and there are others for whom it’s neither pleasurable nor satisfying.
In the end, it all comes down to personal preference, and you should decide whether this might be your cup of tea.